Fifth Grader Suspended from School for Pretending to Shoot with his Finger

November 25, 2014 by · Leave a Comment 

boysplayingThis article in The Boston Globe caught my attention last Thursday. Evidently this boy was waiting in line for lunch and having a pretend “shoot ‘em up” game. He jumped ahead of two girls in line who told him not to cut. He returned to his place, but they report that he pointed his finger at them and made shooting noises and then pretended to blow off “the gun barrel.” The girls felt threatened and told an authority. The school officials took this behavior as a “threat” and followed their procedure for threats: a two-day suspension. Read more

How is Your Garden/Family Growing: Time for New Ideas?

August 25, 2014 by · 1 Comment 

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I like to garden. I would say that I am “middling” good at it. This year I have had a little more time to put into it, so I worked hard to weed and water one perennial bed. I divided plants that had gotten too big, and I moved some poor performers to places where I thought they would do better. Yet many plants look crummy, and there are still places where only weeds will grow. Read more

When Life Throws You Curveballs

August 12, 2014 by · Leave a Comment 

5394666705_c1bf3d64c5_mI don’t know about you but I have had quite the Monday: problems with television, phone and email service. At least the television doesn’t affect my work, but the other two definitely do. At this point it appears that all problems are solved, but a fair amount of my workday has been unexpectedly devoted to getting these services fixed. Fortunately, I was not dealing with a young child as well, only my husband, who is quite challenged when it comes to electronic technology. Read more

Why Won’t She Stop?

July 28, 2014 by · Leave a Comment 

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Lately parents have asked me why their children won’t stop arguing. It’s a difficult problem, and you have my sympathy.

You say, “It’s time to go upstairs to take your bath.” Perhaps you even had a talk about this earlier in an attempt to avoid an argument. But now your child has been watching television, and since you have a child who has difficulty with transitions, she tries to bargain for more time. Read more

Why Do I Feel So Defeated? 6 Steps to Stop Trying to Win and Teach Your Child to Solve Problems

March 25, 2014 by · Leave a Comment 

hockeyplayersDo you feel like you’re in a never ending battle for control with your child? I run into parents who complain that their children won’t do as they are asked.  This leads to battles that can escalate and be hurtful on both sides.  I find this situation with parents of preschoolers right up through high school. After the battle, parents feel bad about the things their child said and about what they (the parent) said.  They wonder why kids are so disrespectful these days.  They feel defeated. Read more